LOVE..........LUB DUB
• "Love is that first feeling you feel before all the bad stuff gets in the way."
• "When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That's love."
• "When someone loves you, the way she says your name is different. You know that your name is safe in her mouth."
• "Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other."
• "Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your french fries without making them give you any of theirs."
• "Love is when someone hurts you. And you get so mad but you don't yell at him because you know it would hurt his feelings."
• "Love is what makes you smile when you're tired."
• "Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK."
• "Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more. My mommy and daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss but they look happy and sometimes they dance in the kitchen while kissing."
• "Love is what's in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen."
• "If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate."
• "Love is hugging. Love is kissing. Love is saying no."
• "When you tell someone something bad about yourself and you're scared she won't love you anymore. But then you get surprised because not only does she still love you, she loves you even more."
• "There are 2 kinds of love. Our love. God's love. But God makes both kinds of them."
• "Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday."
• "Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they've know each other so well."
• "During my piano recital, I was on a stage and scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling. He was the only one doing that. I wasn't scared anymore."
• "Love is-if you hold hands and sit beside each other in the cafeteria. That means you're in love. Otherwise, you can sit across from each other and be okay."
• "My mommy loves me more than anybody. You don't see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night."
• "Love is when mommy gives daddy the best piece of chicken."
• "Don't feel so bad if you don't have a boyfriend. There's lots of stuff you can do without one."
• "Love is when mommy sees daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford."
• "If you want somebody to love you, then just be yourself. Some people try to act like somebody else, somebody the boy likes better. I think the boy isn't being very good if he does this to you and you should just find a nicer boy."
• "Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day."
• "When you're born and see your mommy for the first time."
• "Love is what makes people hide in the dark corners of movie theaters."
• "Love goes on even when you stop breathing and you pick up where you left off when you reach heaven."
• "My enemies taught me how to love."
• "I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones."
• "You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget."
• "You have to fall in love before you get married. Then when you're married, you just sit around and read books together."
• "I let my big sister pick on me because my Mom says she only picks on me because she loves me. So I pick on my baby sister because I love her."
• "Love cards like Valentine's cards say stuff on them that we'd like to say ourselves, but we wouldn't be caught dead saying."
• "When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you."
• "Love is when mommy sees daddy on the toilet and she doesn't think it's gross."
• "You never have to be lonely. There's always somebody to love, even if it's just a squirrel or a kitten."
• "You can break love, but it won't die."
Mary and John's story is familiar.
"I hate you -- get out of my life!" she said when he finally arrived. She was furious about his coming home two hours late to a cold dinner on the table. The candles had burned out, and she ate alone. This was not the first time he stood her up. You'd think she would learn! (You'd think he would learn!)
She loved him so much she was enraged, and told him she wanted a divorce and for him to leave and never come back! Obviously to John, Mary no longer loved him, so he left, hurt and upset, and spent the night elsewhere. Mary was even more hurt from his staying away all night.
Of course, she loved him very much. She understood that. But how could she love him and hate him at the same time? She wondered, and he wondered, and with no clear answer they drifted apart.
She didn't understand that love is more than a feeling of pleasure. Love is also an emotional investment. Mary's anger meant that John was very important to her. Otherwise she wouldn't care at all. Anger is an inevitable feeling in any relationship . . . but you have to know how to use the energy to turn upsets into opportunities.
The truth is, many people are confused about how to have a close relationship that works. . . .
. . .and no wonder. . .
There are thousands of families out there that model for their kids how not to be loving with their husband or wife. They may want to know the "Secret of loving relationships ". . . but all they can do is the best they learned from their own parents about how to get along with others. . . .
Love Means Treating Others Well
How to have harmonious relationships is not a mystery. The first meaning of love has to do with how you treat the person you care about. Creating a close, loving relationship is not actually so difficult to understand! How to do it can be learned. In fact, it has to be learned by everyone who knows how to sanctify their relationship rather than pollute it.
• Anyone can do it, and there is no need to sit at the feet of a "guru," spend thousands on training workshops, or give up and settle for doing without the love you want.. . .
• It all comes down to the simple, basic rules of listening, understanding, and empathizing with what is important to your loved one. Once you understand how treating others in loving ways works, your relationship cannot fail because of you.
Now, here's a book about the meaning of love that will show you the foundation on which to build a deeply caring relationship . . .
The Meaning of Love is based on the proven principles and methods that are currently being used by those couples who succeed in their relationships. The other 55% who fail in their marriages use the methods that poison and destroy their relationships.
Love Means Pleasure
When couples treat each other well, they delight in each other, and love means pleasure, deep emotional enjoyment of each other.
• Sexual pleasure is only that, and does not create emotional intimacy. You don't have to settle for temporary enjoyment as all you can have. You can go beyond to find the emotional satisfaction that you've always wanted.
• Don't waste time thinking sex is the answer. Learn from what others know . . . that acceptance and affirmation of oneself and others creates the emotional delight that can be expressed with sex.
The experts who understand what works have one thing in common. . . they know that couples who succeed have the same problems as couples who fail. . . the difference is in how they deal with their problems when they are not enjoying each other.
Does your husband or wife (or significant other):
• Criticize you about little things?
• Seem less interested in you than before?
• Put you off when it comes to physical contact?
Here is a manual that tells you exactly what others do to get the positive results that you want in your own relationship. You don't have to figure it all out on your own from scratch.
You have a description of what really works and what doesn't when it comes to close, emotionally satisfying, loving relationships.
Love Means Caring: Emotional Investment
Sharing life activities and personal information creates intimacy and emotional connection. Over time, caring grows and your emotional investment in the other deepens, even when all is not "rosy" and pleasurable. We love because we find our emotional match in the other person, that which makes us feel more whole. We have found a "soul mate" and gradually become more and more emotionally and spiritually connected to the other person.
Fear is what gets in the way of caring. But you don't have to suffer in silence. Using the principles in this book, you can reverse what may seem irreversible, including:
• Fear of asking for what you want.
• Finding yourself reacting defensively when you don't want to do so.
• Being critical of your partner or yourself.
• Attempting to control your partner.
• Fear of being rejected.